Lets Talk Motherhood Series: Staying Present With Little Ones
I am so very excited to be a part of this months collaboration, “Lets Talk Motherhood Series.” I have teamed up with some incredible bloggers and moms to share with you a series of questions answered from all of our different perspectives! This months topic is on staying present with our children, which is so important. Mckell created Lets Talk Motherhood to share and relate with other moms from all over. No matter how different or similar some wonen may be, motherhood is different for everyone. Be sure to head to all other pages after you’re finished here to keep reading!
As a blogger, how do you balance working from home and staying present with your children?
For me, blogging is all about prioritizing however sometimes I do slip up and have to remind myself to just put the computer away and that the emails can wait. I think my generation is hard wired into technology and social media and it is sad. I typically make sure that my computer stays tucked away until my girls are napping or unless Khloe is playing happily by herself with no needs from me. Another thing that has helped me stay more present is that I have recently been more in touch with my faith, which has made me realize more and more that I need to live in the moment before it passes by. As you can tell my social media and blog is all about my children and my family which I believe makes it a little easier to stay present with them because my work revolves around them, and I love that so much.
What is your favorite way of spending quality time with your little ones?
My favorite way of spending time with my girls is going on adventures, more so for Khloe, but for all of us. She is at such a crucial age right now and it is so important to me that she feels important, always. One thing that came with having another child was that I would have to split my time between two of them and finding a balance there. I enjoy living in the moment with my girls and making the most of our time together because I know that before I know it, they won’t need me so much anymore. We do things like go to the zoo, picnic in the park with our friends, the water park, johns incredible pizza, fairs & carnivals etc. However on the flip side I also enjoy the simplest things like taking Khlo to the coffee shop after school, just her and I, or laying on the floor with Spencer listening to her talk uninterrupted. Fun and simple are my favorite ways to spend quality time with them!
In such a fast paced world, how do you slow down with and without your children?
With all the fun and exciting things we like to do, my most favorite thing of all is just being home. I am a home body and everyone who knows me, knows it. Sometimes I’m guilty of letting the fast pace get to me and eventually it takes a toll on me, and if mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy around here. I think as a blogger and a stay at home mom I often feel pressure to fit a certain stigma of the things we should do and the places we should go, and that is exhausting mentally and physically. Slowing down is also so important for us because my husband is gone five to six and sometimes even seven days a week so when he comes home for a night or two all he wants on his agenda is S L O W. Our weekends are mostly spent in our jammies and I’m totally okay with that. Aside from my girls I enjoy taking time for myself whether it be getting a pedicure, going out for a drink with my girlfriends or going on an extended target run. Clearing my mind and feeling good about myself is super important for me.
What is something you do every day to be present in the moment?
Every night our routine is the same. I bathe the girls around 7 and I tend to Spencer first. If she isn’t in bed by 7:30, she starts to panic. The only time she really cries is when she’s ready for bed. Once she’s done I move on to Khloe. Every night we put her pajamas on and she immediately asks for Elsa hair (aka a braid). I give her her Elsa hair, we brush her teeth and once 8:15 rolls around we’re off to her bed. She has a tuck in routine and as soon as we finish it, she looks up and asks me to read her a story. Even if it’s an inconvenience to me (which I know it shouldn’t be but I’m human) or I’m just really not in the mood, I do it.. every single time. About six weeks ago she went through a terrible sleep regression and I realized that she watches me give Spencer everything she needs, naturally, and all she needed was me. I try to reflect on her actions and see things through her eyes and that alone makes me be present in the moment. She needs me, they need me. And I’m perfectly fine with that.
What advice would you give to new and future moms about staying present as a parent?
As mothers, our number one job is to just be that to our children, mothers. We are everything to these little humans, and if I could give you one piece of advice it would be to just remember that. They need us, although more often than not I realize how much I really need them. We shape them into the men and women they will one day become, we teach them what is acceptable and what is not, how to love and be loved and how to some day be mothers and fathers. If you don’t know how to count to three, learn. When you just want to rip your hair out, imagine your baby becoming your teenage or twenty year old self and remember that they will be sooner than we think. My children are still so little, but the time they have been on this earth has flown by me so fast at times it can be hard to remember. When they have wants or needs, acknowledge their wants and needs and make them feel understood, but most importantly, wanted. Look at life through our eyes, and remember that they just need us. It is so important to fulfill that need.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my thoughts on staying present. Be sure to check out the four other mamas in this “Lets Talk Motherhood Series.”
·· Mckell: Instagram / www.lifeasmrswilson.com ··
·· Aurora: Instagram / www.auroramccausland.com ··
·· Melissa: Instagram / www.melissalynchurch.com··
·· Mandy: Instagram / www.thestrivingmama.com ··