This month I have teamed up with a bunch of lovely women to talk in the “Lets Talk Motherhood Series.” This series is a great way to relate with other women and also to show women and mothers that we all have different perspectives of how this crazy thing called motherhood goes. This month we will be talking about seasons, and no not the seasons that change the leaves and warm the air, but the seasons of life that we are constantly making our way through. I hope you enjoy my perspective and when you are done, head over to see the other womens perspective on this important topic.
1. What is something you want to remember about this particular season of life?
Everything. I want nothing more to remember every single thing about this season of life that I am currently in. This is the best and most fulfilling time of my life and I love (most) everything about it. I know that in twenty years when my kids are grown I will miss this everyday life that I live now. I guess if I had to choose ONE thing I want to remember about this season of life, it would have to be all the firsts. First words, first days of school, first steps and so on. Those very moments are some of the most exciting experiences of life period, and if I could remember one thing about this time it would be that.
2. Throughout each new milestone in your child’s life, how have you adapted and transitioned your own life as well?
I guess for me personally, I don’t ever think about adapting to milestones, I just DO. Motherhood came very naturally to me and I am very lucky and grateful for that because I know it doesn’t always come so easy for everyone. For instance when Khloe started crawling, I babyproofed the entire house, because that was just my instinct. The biggest transition for me however has been the transition to two. I used to say something like, “I have one already, how hard could another one be?” Wrong.. I was very wrong. Having two kids is very difficult. For almost three whole years it was just me and Khloe, and with her being so independent it was always pretty easy. Transtioning to two means that I had to adapt in so many different ways. I had to share my time, make sure I was fulfilling Khloes needs while taking care of a newborn who needs me 110% of the time, and I had to learn really quick that getting out of the house wasn’t the 10 minute ordeal it used to be. It is so wonderful having two beautiful girls, but still difficult.
3. What was the transition into motherhood like for you? How did you manage adjusting to such a different season of life?
The transition into motherhood was as easy and as smooth as I could have hoped for. Lucky for me, Khloe was such an easy baby which made it so much easier. As most people know, my husband travels quite often for work and as a matter of fact, was back to work the day after I delivered which left me to fend for myself. I am a great mother first and foremost because I love my kids and they are my world, but also because I have no choice. When I am sick, I have to mom, when I am tired, I have to mom, and when the kids need a bath, I have to mom. I have to kick ass at being these girls mom because I HAVE to, for them. Granted, I always knew that would be the case with his career, so I think I was more mentally prepared for it. Being a mother was something I knew in the back of my mind that I always wanted and I knew I wanted it at a young age as well. It was my purpose in life and I knew that.. I knew that my most important job on this earth would be to raise kind humans and I think so.
4. In three words, how would you describe your current season of life?
The best yet. This season I am currently in in my life, has been my most favorite and I don’t think I ever want it to end. I enjoy everything about these babies and being their mommy. I am so involved and want to continue to be involved in every thing that I possibly can be. From room mom, to pta president, and chaperoning field trips, I love it all and I want it all. Some people think I am crazy and my husbands exact words are “Why cant we be norrrmmaaalllll?” But I love it so much I cant get enough
5. What advice would you give to mothers that are struggling to embrace the season of life they are in?
The advice I have to give to mothers who are struggling with this season of life is to first off, embrace it. Embrace everything that motherhood has to offer and make the most of every situation. Sometimes when I just want to scream, I laugh. Because why not? Secondly, seek help. That is important for me to remember, that I can’t do it on my own and I need help, we all do. Whether that be from your spouse, your friends or your doctor, you know where you need help and who you need help from so take the help. Lastly, but most importantly do your best. Your best and my best are two completely different definitions of the word. As long as any mother OR father is doing their best, that is literally all that matters. Sometimes we think our best isn’t good enough and if that is truly so, go back to my previous point and seek help. Everyone around you wants you to succeed and I’m sure are willing to help in some way.
One thing I want to touch on before I sign off is that if you’re reading this and you too are struggling, as are we all, remember that you are not alone. Instagram has a funny way of depicting life to be perfect and it is no such thing. We are all human and we all struggle, hell I struggle every single day. Children are so forgiving and when you mess up, they’ll love you no less. Embrace everything your little ones have to offer you because if you take a step back you’ll realize that when you think you’re teaching them, they’re really teaching you. Don’t forget to check out the other amazing women in this months “Let’s Talk Motherhood’s Series.”
Mckell – http://www.lifeasmrswilson.com
Aurora – http://www.auroramccausland.com
Melissa – http://www.melissalynnchurch.com
Quartney – http://www.secretlifeofq.blogspot.com
Mandy – http://www.thestrivingmama.com